Le matrimonials: My List


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW. 
We all know people who are looking to get married, but when I ask some people, “What exactly are you looking for?”, the answer is something like, “a good Muslim” or “someone with deen and good character.” That’s all good and well, but I think that’s way too vague to be describing the person that you’re potentially going to spend the rest of your life with! So I decided to share “my list.”
What I am looking for in a husband:
This description is my ideal/ dream husband and I understand that someone wouldn’t be absolutely everything that I am looking for. But here goes:
▪️Someone who loves Allah SWT, His Messenger SAW and the Qur’an,
▪️who has good character
▪️who preferably comes from a good family
▪️Someone with the same understanding of deen as me
▪️preferably with higher eemaan than me
▪️Someone who is able to articulate his feelings, express himself, and communicate well
▪️Someone who is good-natured, very sweet, romantic, thoughtful, affectionate, caring and kindhearted
▪️Someone who understands me and who handles me well, especially at my worst
▪️Someone who brings joy to my life
▪️who fits in well with my family
▪️who is generally happy and positive
▪️Someone who is well-spoken
▪️emotionally mature
▪️educated in deen and dunya
▪️Someone who is healthy, not overweight
▪️who doesn’t have anger issues
▪️Someone who knows how to cook and clean would be nice, even though I can cook.
▪️Someone willing to help out at home would be nice too
▪️Someone responsible
▪️financially stable; able to provide and who is good with money
▪️Finally, someone who wants to marry me for who I am and who values and appreciates me and what I do, and who encourages and supports me in everything that I do and ultimately helps me along the journey to Jannah.
My deal-breakers
🔺Living with in-laws/family 
🔺Practicing polygamy
🔺Travelling a lot for work
🔺Practicing anything haram
🔺Anger issues
If you’re one of those people looking to get married, I hope that this list helps you to define or refine what you’re looking for in a potential partner. Or maybe you can share it with someone you know who is looking.
With best of du’as for your worldy and Hereafter success,
PS: I am planning to share my list of questions to ask in another post inShaAllah. If you need it urgently then just email or WhatsApp message me at any time.

Course: The Study of 57 Ways of Recitation for Imam Hafs (RA)



I was invited to attend the enrichment course hosted by Jam ‘Eyyatul Qurra on the study of 57 ways of recitation for Imam Hafs RA, and being a qiraa-aat student, there was no ways I was going to pass up this opportunity. It started last night and it is being recorded, so anyone still wanting to join may do so. It is free of charge.

The text is in Arabic and is translated and explained by Sheikh Imtiyaaz Isaacs. Due to time constraints, he does not translate word-for-word and nor does he explain terms that we are expected to know, like “tawssut” and “mutawaatir”.

In order to give an overview of the science of qiraa-aat, he started off explaining that there are ten qurraa, and each had two outstanding students. In the case of ‘Asim, his two students, Hafs and Shu’ba, were outstanding not only for their perfection of their recitation, but because they would not accept remuneration of any kind – Not even their students carrying their bags for them. Why? They feared coming on the day of Qiyaamah and being told that they already received their remuneration in the dunya! SubhanAllah! May Allah SWT make us true people of the Qur’an. Aameen.


Course Duration: 16 days

The course is based on the book “ Taudih Al Ma’lim Li Turuq Hafs An Asim” by Sheikh Allie bin Muhammad Tawfiq Al Nuhas

The book is dynamic in the field of Qira’at specifically and generally in the field of Quran as it is the first of its kind demonstrating every dialect with a chain of transmission from the author directly to the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him.

The book incorporates 57 ways of recitation for the narrator Hafs may Allah be pleased with him who is a direct student of Asim may Allah be pleased with him. Only 52 ways of recitation is found in the Nasr of Imam Ibn Al Jazariy and the 5 ways was included by Sheikh Taufiq who studied it under the tutorship of Sheikh Amir Sayed Uthman the grand Sheikh of Egypt in his time may Allah be pleased with them and Sheikh Kuriam Rajih of Damascus.

The enrichment program will focus primarily on the practical application of each recitation in collaboration with the theoretical aspects thereof.

This course will equip educators with in depth insights on both theoretical and practical Quranic installations derived from the texts.

Expectation of those who are interested to join – persons that enter should have a background of understanding Arabic texts and Tajwid rules.

Allocated days per week: 2 days

Sun (8.30-10.30am) morning

Tuesday (7.30-9.30pm) evening

Venue: JEQ FHI (Females Campus, new building, 13th Avenue Skaap Kraal)

Presented by: Imtiyaaz Isaacs (Graduate of the Al-Azhar university Faculty of Islamic Law and direct student of the author)

All welcome!

​Striving for excellence in the memorization of the Holy Quran

Imtiyaaz Isaacs Al Azhariy
Male Hāfith Institute
c/o Schaapkraal & Kraal Roads, Schaapkraal, 7880
P.O. Box 31447, Grassy Park 7888
Tel:021 703 9324, Fax:021 704 1305
Cell: 071 891 5961
Email: Abusalsabeel.mq@gmail.com

Hifthspiration (and the inspiration behind it)

BismillahAll praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW. This course came about when I took my one of my fave student out for completing her juz. I was dying to try out this new halal restaurant so that’s where we went.

I told her about how I was planning this project. It’s been at the back of my mind all year. There is so much I wish I knew when I started hifth, so much I learned along the way, and interesting things about living the post-hifth experience I hope to share. I finally put together the outline and designed a poster, only for the proposal to be rejected by the potential partner. I thought it just wasn’t meant to be. But my student wouldn’t let me back down. She made me super excited about it, and offered to help out. Now, instead of just me presenting, we’ve got 2 young, inspiring presenters on board who I am very excited to be sharing the platform with for the first time InShaAllah!I have so much to share, I’m already worried that I’ll run out of time. May Allah SWT grant us absolute sincerity and complete acceptance. Āmīn. Prepping for my hifth course. Have you registered yet? With best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,Wasfeeya

Hifthspiration: A Realistic Route to Qur’an Memorisation


Topics that will be covered:

  • The art of intention and uncovering your inner whys
  • How to begin your hifth journey
  • Powerful du’as to help you in your memorisation journey
  • Memorisation techniques and methods
  • How to tackle revision the right way
  • How to deal with mutashābihāt and old mistakes.
  • The different kinds of external accountability that can support you
  • The elements, habits and routines you need to reach your Qur’an memorisation goals or become a haafith/haafithah
  • Post-course support


Moments for my jar


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW.

I had a particularly difficult day today. Spiritually. Probably because it’s around that time of the month. My sabr is being tested. And I caved today.


So I was in a state of restlessness all day. But then, Alhamdulillah, Allah SWT guided me back to Him by choosing me to be at the Ratib al-Haddad tonight. The thikr brought my heart rest. I sat there experiencing the ayah “Truly in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.”

Secondly, being in company of our beloved teacher, Ml. Muhammad Carr, looking at his pleasant countenance and listening to his naseeha brought tears to my eyes and happiness to my soul.

Thirdly, this super cat decided to join the thikr. He found a warm jacket and made himself at home on one of the brother’s lap. Afterwards, he came upstairs and graced me with his adorable presence😻.

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blessed Jumu'ah.

est of du'as for your worldly and Hereafter success,


Some things I learned [August/’Arafah Edition]


All praises and thanks be to Allah. Abundant salutations be upon His and our Beloved SAW.

I was inspired by the blog series “3 for Sunnah” by Umm Raiyaan of Sisters Achieve, where every Monday she shares something she’s either read, studied, experienced, discovered, learnt, lost, gained, loved and hated! Deen and dunya! So I started my own blog series, where I share a post at the end of every month. Check out my previous posts under the “some things I learned” tag. August is my most overdue post this year. It’s almost midnight and I need to take out my contact lenses and revise some more dhor (back lessons), but I couldn’t bear to go another day without posting. So here goes. Bismillah.

Although Allah SWT did not choose me to be standing on the plains of ‘Arafah, He chose for me to be present at a Hajj Retreat hosted by Light Upon Light Women’s Foundation. This was especially significant to me, because just the day before, I fell off the wagon and felt rather hopeless, and being chosen to be there made me feel loved by the Most-Merciful. Alhamdulillah. I learned some things that I never knew before, especially from Shaykha Umm Abdullah, who recorded a session especially for us.

Standing on ‘Arafah connects us to:

  1. The very beginning of our journey; the day our souls were gathered on the plains of Nu’maan, next to ‘Arafah, where Allah SWT asked us, “Am I not your Lord?” and we took the covenant that we would worship Him.
  2. The beginning. The hajj connects us to the story of Nabi Ebrahim AS.
  3. The near future, the Day the of Gathering. The near future isn’t what career path we’re going to follow, the near future is the Day of Judgement, where our permanent future will be determined.
  4. Today; the middle point between our past and our future. Repent because there will come a day when there will be no more time to repent.

What to do on the day of ‘Arafah:


-Recite Surah Al-Hashr. It is a reminder that we will be gathered on the day of Judgement.

-Recite Surah Al-Ikhlaas 1000 times. Shaykha Umm Abdullah related that Habib ‘Umar’s mother would recite Surah Al-Ikhlaas 1000 times as she went about her day, and would ask her young daughter to count for her on a misbaha. A lesson to take from her: If we get the people around us to help and support us, we can easily accomplish what we couldn’t otherwise.

-Du’a: Allahumma Ajirnee minan-naar (Oh Allah, protect me from the Fire) 7 times

-Personal du’as.

-Abundantly recite takbeer (the 4th kalimah) on the day of ‘Arafah and up until the ‘Eid salaah takes place.

-Taubah & istighfaar

-Salawaat upon Rasulullah

Something I internalised on this day:

The husband I want to marry is meant to be only a means of getting closer to Allah, not a means to benefit me (emotionally and materially).

Some things I tried to reflect on:

Roshaan Misbach conveyed that when we say “Allahu Akbar”; Allah is Greater, the biggest thing that Allah is greater than is you. Because we depend so much on ourselves. Ask yourself: Why do I have a greater priority over Allah? I am making myself an ilaah (god/deity) with Allah when I put my whims and fancies over obedience to Allah SWT. How do we have the audacity to sin upon sin upon sin?

Some more things I learned:

  • They say that the most intimate relationship is between a husband and a wife, but the most intimate relationship should be between you and Allah.
  • Du’as are always answered when they are made in a group.
  • On the Day of ‘Arafah we turn to Allah with certainty that He’ll answer us as He is responding to all hujaaj.
  • The most important du’a for the hujaaj to make on ‘Arafah is to ask forgiveness for themselves, their parents and all believers.
  • On the day of ‘Arafah, the angels bear witness that Allah forgives the hujaaj.
  • ‘Arafah is the day that Shaytaan is most disgraced. We need to make him even more disgraced.
  • Allah can fix EVERYTHING for us, but we have to ask Him.
  • If you have any doubt that Allah will forgive you, you have sinned on this day, and that’s the greatest sin on this day. I found myself falling into this sin. I am among the weakest of Allah’s slaves and doubted whether Allah would forgive me when I keep falling into the same sins time and again. I felt like Shaykha Umm Abdullah was speaking to me when I heard this.

Actually, I felt like she was the messenger but that the message was from Allah Himself.

At the Hajj Retreat, we had the precious experience of talking to Sister Nazareen Jakoet who phoned while she was on ‘Arafah. She urged us all to make the intention to go on Hajj. May Allah SWT accept our intentions to go on Hajj. May He accept all of our good intentions, deeds and du’as. Aameen.


With best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,




40 Hadīth on the Virtues of the Quran [free download]


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His And our Beloved SAW.

I was honoured and privileged to spend my morning in a gathering of a reading of the 40 ahadīth on the virtues of the Qur’an by Mulla Ali al-Qari. I was issued sanad and ijaazah from Sheikh Riyaadh Obaray, a soft-spoken soul and qualified teacher at Al-Tanzil Institute of Qur’anic sciences. He didn’t charge a cent but requested us to pass on the knowledge that we’ve learned from him. I urge you to download the book for free here and benefit from it InShaAllah.

I’ve always wanted to die young, because I was afraid of my body deteriorating and of losing my independence. Until today. Today I learned that the Prophet SAW made a special du’a for the teachers of sacred knowledge, that they be kept “moist” i.e. preserved. SubhanAllah. Sheikh Riyaadh told us about teachers who are in their nineties and are still teaching on a daily basis. May Allah SWT make us amongst them. Āmīn.

With best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,




Can I scream from from the rooftops or are you gonna get jealous?


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His And our Beloved SAW.

I try not to share too much 'cause I'm well aware of the evil eye. Even I occasionally feel creepy crawlies in my heart when I see those instagrammable pics of drop dead gorgeous couples embracing, while I'm still over here on the shelf waiting for someone to notice me. Hi.

I have a friend who posted on Facebook a while ago that when she gets married she's not going to post pics of her and her husband, but since she got married she's long forgotten about that Facebook status.

I'm tempted to say that I won't post pics of me and my husband some day but what if, like her, I just can't resist?

Anyway, this post was actually supposed to be about some of my good news.

Dramatic, Metaphorical Drum Roll please…

I found "the one!"🎊

I've been searching high and low for a while now. The first car didn't have a full service history. The second car we found had a past. It turns out "third time lucky" is a REAL THING!!! See, I told you I'll get what I'm looking for! Alhamdulillah.

When I made du'a for this car I told Allah that He's gifted people with Ferraris and sports cars and all I'm asking for is a little Toyota or Honda. I also promised Him I'll only use it for good, like I promised 5 years ago when I went for my licence. Alhamdulillah.

PS: Please don't be jealous – I've had my driver's licence for 5 long years and I've been sharing a car all that time.

PPS: The remedy to feeling jealous is to make du'a for the person. Just in case you need it. Which I trust you don't. But in case.

Some things I learned [July/Bday Edition]


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW.

Alhamdulillah, today marks another year older.

24 lessons for my 24 years from non other than momma bear.

1. Don't marry the first guy who comes along. Thanks mom💗

2. Take care of your teeth😁. Yep, I religiously go for those dental cleanings you're supposed to have every 6 -8 months.

3. Don't give a beggar cold food. Do you like cold food?

4. Do good to others and good will come to you, but not from the same people. So don't put that expectation on anyone.

5. Forgive and forget. Truly. I think this was passed down in my genes so thanks mom❤️

6. Don't ever think that you won't find someone better than the last. I always have. Fingers crossed🙏.

7. You're so eager to give but learn to ASK for favours from others. I'm still working on this one.

8. Look at the good in every situation. I have and will always remember her for this.

9. We don't have it that bad. We always say this to each other when we hear about other people's situations.

10. Say Alhamdulillah. Allah says that if you are grateful, I will increase you.

11. Buy a chocolate and write a card for someone who helped you out or gave you good service.

12. Care for your pets. Take the cat to the vet. Buy it toys and treats. Sometimes she cares more about my cat than me.

13. Genuinely be a nice person. Regardless. Especially when you could be nasty.

14. Drink room temperature or hot water, even at restaurants. I finally started maybe a year or two ago.

15. Eat fish, vegetables and soup. After some convincing I'll have a little.

16. The tidiness of your room affects your mental state i.e. Keep it tidy.

17. No. Means. No. The worst answer ever when you're a kid/ teen!!!

18. Your past doesn't define your future.

19. Don't wait for anyone – celebrate your own success!!

20. Smell every rose you pass by. Appreciate the little things in life.

21. Go to the masjid. My mother instilled the love of masājid in me. It's a shame that females are deprived from the house of Allah.

22. When you lose something, recite Surah Al-Dhuhaa. This was advice from Jeddah (my paternal granny), may Allah SWT grant her complete shifaa and sabr. Āmīn.

23. Education is the key to success. I'd add Islamic education.

24. Visit old people and take them something that they like. And honour the elderly. I'm named after my paternal grandmother purely out of my mother's choice.

That sums up 24 things I learned from my mother, but definitely not everything I learned.

May Allah SWT grant our mothers the life they deserve – in Jannatul Firdous without reckoning. Āmīn.

With best of du'as for your worldly and Hereafter success,


Seeking {part 2}


All praises and thanks are due to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW.

Seeking my first car.
And seeking "the one".

They are everything that I am looking for. They check all of my boxes.

But then we had it taken for an assessment and I found out the car has a past. It was in an accident.
His skeletons fell out of the closet. I swear I wasn't looking for them. I wouldn't have wanted to know. But it's too late to unlearn what I did. Am I nonjudgmental enough to look past it and accept and love him for the man it has made him today?

Should I accept them for who and what they are and trust that they have recovered and will be okay? Or am I way too trusting?

Oh Allah, choose for me.

…and make me pleased with Your choices.