Hifthspiration: A Realistic Route to Qur’an Memorisation


Topics that will be covered:

  • The art of intention and uncovering your inner whys
  • How to begin your hifth journey
  • Powerful du’as to help you in your memorisation journey
  • Memorisation techniques and methods
  • How to tackle revision the right way
  • How to deal with mutashābihāt and old mistakes.
  • The different kinds of external accountability that can support you
  • The elements, habits and routines you need to reach your Qur’an memorisation goals or become a haafith/haafithah
  • Post-course support



Moments for my jar


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW.

I had a particularly difficult day today. Spiritually. Probably because it’s around that time of the month. My sabr is being tested. And I caved today.


So I was in a state of restlessness all day. But then, Alhamdulillah, Allah SWT guided me back to Him by choosing me to be at the Ratib al-Haddad tonight. The thikr brought my heart rest. I sat there experiencing the ayah “Truly in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.”

Secondly, being in company of our beloved teacher, Ml. Muhammad Carr, looking at his pleasant countenance and listening to his naseeha brought tears to my eyes and happiness to my soul.

Thirdly, this super cat decided to join the thikr. He found a warm jacket and made himself at home on one of the brother’s lap. Afterwards, he came upstairs and graced me with his adorable presence😻.

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nitely moments for my jar.

blessed Jumu'ah.

est of du'as for your worldly and Hereafter success,


Some things I learned [August/’Arafah Edition]


All praises and thanks be to Allah. Abundant salutations be upon His and our Beloved SAW.

I was inspired by the blog series “3 for Sunnah” by Umm Raiyaan of Sisters Achieve, where every Monday she shares something she’s either read, studied, experienced, discovered, learnt, lost, gained, loved and hated! Deen and dunya! So I started my own blog series, where I share a post at the end of every month. Check out my previous posts under the “some things I learned” tag. August is my most overdue post this year. It’s almost midnight and I need to take out my contact lenses and revise some more dhor (back lessons), but I couldn’t bear to go another day without posting. So here goes. Bismillah.

Although Allah SWT did not choose me to be standing on the plains of ‘Arafah, He chose for me to be present at a Hajj Retreat hosted by Light Upon Light Women’s Foundation. This was especially significant to me, because just the day before, I fell off the wagon and felt rather hopeless, and being chosen to be there made me feel loved by the Most-Merciful. Alhamdulillah. I learned some things that I never knew before, especially from Shaykha Umm Abdullah, who recorded a session especially for us.

Standing on ‘Arafah connects us to:

  1. The very beginning of our journey; the day our souls were gathered on the plains of Nu’maan, next to ‘Arafah, where Allah SWT asked us, “Am I not your Lord?” and we took the covenant that we would worship Him.
  2. The beginning. The hajj connects us to the story of Nabi Ebrahim AS.
  3. The near future, the Day the of Gathering. The near future isn’t what career path we’re going to follow, the near future is the Day of Judgement, where our permanent future will be determined.
  4. Today; the middle point between our past and our future. Repent because there will come a day when there will be no more time to repent.

What to do on the day of ‘Arafah:


-Recite Surah Al-Hashr. It is a reminder that we will be gathered on the day of Judgement.

-Recite Surah Al-Ikhlaas 1000 times. Shaykha Umm Abdullah related that Habib ‘Umar’s mother would recite Surah Al-Ikhlaas 1000 times as she went about her day, and would ask her young daughter to count for her on a misbaha. A lesson to take from her: If we get the people around us to help and support us, we can easily accomplish what we couldn’t otherwise.

-Du’a: Allahumma Ajirnee minan-naar (Oh Allah, protect me from the Fire) 7 times

-Personal du’as.

-Abundantly recite takbeer (the 4th kalimah) on the day of ‘Arafah and up until the ‘Eid salaah takes place.

-Taubah & istighfaar

-Salawaat upon Rasulullah

Something I internalised on this day:

The husband I want to marry is meant to be only a means of getting closer to Allah, not a means to benefit me (emotionally and materially).

Some things I tried to reflect on:

Roshaan Misbach conveyed that when we say “Allahu Akbar”; Allah is Greater, the biggest thing that Allah is greater than is you. Because we depend so much on ourselves. Ask yourself: Why do I have a greater priority over Allah? I am making myself an ilaah (god/deity) with Allah when I put my whims and fancies over obedience to Allah SWT. How do we have the audacity to sin upon sin upon sin?

Some more things I learned:

  • They say that the most intimate relationship is between a husband and a wife, but the most intimate relationship should be between you and Allah.
  • Du’as are always answered when they are made in a group.
  • On the Day of ‘Arafah we turn to Allah with certainty that He’ll answer us as He is responding to all hujaaj.
  • The most important du’a for the hujaaj to make on ‘Arafah is to ask forgiveness for themselves, their parents and all believers.
  • On the day of ‘Arafah, the angels bear witness that Allah forgives the hujaaj.
  • ‘Arafah is the day that Shaytaan is most disgraced. We need to make him even more disgraced.
  • Allah can fix EVERYTHING for us, but we have to ask Him.
  • If you have any doubt that Allah will forgive you, you have sinned on this day, and that’s the greatest sin on this day. I found myself falling into this sin. I am among the weakest of Allah’s slaves and doubted whether Allah would forgive me when I keep falling into the same sins time and again. I felt like Shaykha Umm Abdullah was speaking to me when I heard this.

Actually, I felt like she was the messenger but that the message was from Allah Himself.

At the Hajj Retreat, we had the precious experience of talking to Sister Nazareen Jakoet who phoned while she was on ‘Arafah. She urged us all to make the intention to go on Hajj. May Allah SWT accept our intentions to go on Hajj. May He accept all of our good intentions, deeds and du’as. Aameen.


With best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,




40 Hadīth on the Virtues of the Quran [free download]


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His And our Beloved SAW.

I was honoured and privileged to spend my morning in a gathering of a reading of the 40 ahadīth on the virtues of the Qur’an by Mulla Ali al-Qari. I was issued sanad and ijaazah from Sheikh Riyaadh Obaray, a soft-spoken soul and qualified teacher at Al-Tanzil Institute of Qur’anic sciences. He didn’t charge a cent but requested us to pass on the knowledge that we’ve learned from him. I urge you to download the book for free here and benefit from it InShaAllah.

I’ve always wanted to die young, because I was afraid of my body deteriorating and of losing my independence. Until today. Today I learned that the Prophet SAW made a special du’a for the teachers of sacred knowledge, that they be kept “moist” i.e. preserved. SubhanAllah. Sheikh Riyaadh told us about teachers who are in their nineties and are still teaching on a daily basis. May Allah SWT make us amongst them. Āmīn.

With best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,




Can I scream from from the rooftops or are you gonna get jealous?


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His And our Beloved SAW.

I try not to share too much 'cause I'm well aware of the evil eye. Even I occasionally feel creepy crawlies in my heart when I see those instagrammable pics of drop dead gorgeous couples embracing, while I'm still over here on the shelf waiting for someone to notice me. Hi.

I have a friend who posted on Facebook a while ago that when she gets married she's not going to post pics of her and her husband, but since she got married she's long forgotten about that Facebook status.

I'm tempted to say that I won't post pics of me and my husband some day but what if, like her, I just can't resist?

Anyway, this post was actually supposed to be about some of my good news.

Dramatic, Metaphorical Drum Roll please…

I found "the one!"🎊

I've been searching high and low for a while now. The first car didn't have a full service history. The second car we found had a past. It turns out "third time lucky" is a REAL THING!!! See, I told you I'll get what I'm looking for! Alhamdulillah.

When I made du'a for this car I told Allah that He's gifted people with Ferraris and sports cars and all I'm asking for is a little Toyota or Honda. I also promised Him I'll only use it for good, like I promised 5 years ago when I went for my licence. Alhamdulillah.

PS: Please don't be jealous – I've had my driver's licence for 5 long years and I've been sharing a car all that time.

PPS: The remedy to feeling jealous is to make du'a for the person. Just in case you need it. Which I trust you don't. But in case.

Some things I learned [July/Bday Edition]


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW.

Alhamdulillah, today marks another year older.

24 lessons for my 24 years from non other than momma bear.

1. Don't marry the first guy who comes along. Thanks mom💗

2. Take care of your teeth😁. Yep, I religiously go for those dental cleanings you're supposed to have every 6 -8 months.

3. Don't give a beggar cold food. Do you like cold food?

4. Do good to others and good will come to you, but not from the same people. So don't put that expectation on anyone.

5. Forgive and forget. Truly. I think this was passed down in my genes so thanks mom❤️

6. Don't ever think that you won't find someone better than the last. I always have. Fingers crossed🙏.

7. You're so eager to give but learn to ASK for favours from others. I'm still working on this one.

8. Look at the good in every situation. I have and will always remember her for this.

9. We don't have it that bad. We always say this to each other when we hear about other people's situations.

10. Say Alhamdulillah. Allah says that if you are grateful, I will increase you.

11. Buy a chocolate and write a card for someone who helped you out or gave you good service.

12. Care for your pets. Take the cat to the vet. Buy it toys and treats. Sometimes she cares more about my cat than me.

13. Genuinely be a nice person. Regardless. Especially when you could be nasty.

14. Drink room temperature or hot water, even at restaurants. I finally started maybe a year or two ago.

15. Eat fish, vegetables and soup. After some convincing I'll have a little.

16. The tidiness of your room affects your mental state i.e. Keep it tidy.

17. No. Means. No. The worst answer ever when you're a kid/ teen!!!

18. Your past doesn't define your future.

19. Don't wait for anyone – celebrate your own success!!

20. Smell every rose you pass by. Appreciate the little things in life.

21. Go to the masjid. My mother instilled the love of masājid in me. It's a shame that females are deprived from the house of Allah.

22. When you lose something, recite Surah Al-Dhuhaa. This was advice from Jeddah (my paternal granny), may Allah SWT grant her complete shifaa and sabr. Āmīn.

23. Education is the key to success. I'd add Islamic education.

24. Visit old people and take them something that they like. And honour the elderly. I'm named after my paternal grandmother purely out of my mother's choice.

That sums up 24 things I learned from my mother, but definitely not everything I learned.

May Allah SWT grant our mothers the life they deserve – in Jannatul Firdous without reckoning. Āmīn.

With best of du'as for your worldly and Hereafter success,


Seeking {part 2}


All praises and thanks are due to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW.

Seeking my first car.
And seeking "the one".

They are everything that I am looking for. They check all of my boxes.

But then we had it taken for an assessment and I found out the car has a past. It was in an accident.
His skeletons fell out of the closet. I swear I wasn't looking for them. I wouldn't have wanted to know. But it's too late to unlearn what I did. Am I nonjudgmental enough to look past it and accept and love him for the man it has made him today?

Should I accept them for who and what they are and trust that they have recovered and will be okay? Or am I way too trusting?

Oh Allah, choose for me.

…and make me pleased with Your choices.


How to Improve your Tajweed in 5 Steps


All praises an thanks are due to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our Beloved SAW.

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Bad tajweed, especially from shuyukh/learned people is one of my pet peeves – things that irritate me. I don’t think there is a good enough excuse in this world not to make an effort to improve your recitation to the best of your ability, unless you’re incapacitated physically, mentally or circumstantially. I hope that covers all the valid excuses. People use money as an excuse but I can tell you that no true Qur’an teacher would turn you away for not being able to afford it. Being shy is no excuse either, sorry about that one. I’ve always been the type to try to change what I can, within my capacity. So hence this post. PS: I know I might sound harsh, but you’d have to be crazy not to want to be of the people of the Qur’an; the people of Allah. May Allah make us of them. Aameen.

Step 0

You need to have a teacher. This is a non-negotiable. I’m sorry but Sheikh Sudais doesn’t count as your virtual teacher bro. If there is no one in your area, go online. This year, I have a student in another province who is a uni student and employee yet recited the entire Qur’an to me over the phone in a couple months.

Oh, and then actually attend your classes. Refer to the valid excuses for being unable to attend.  

Step 1

Learn tajweed THEORY + PRACTICAL application simultaneously.  You need to understand what you’re doing and why you’re doing it in order to take your tajweed to the next level. I advise this from personal experience.

Step 2

Understand your mistakes and know how you are supposed to sound. If you don’t, ask your teacher to clarify, even if you need to ask him/her 100 times. 

Step 3

RECORD your lesson with your teacher so that you can go back to it at home and better understand where you’re going wrong, and if you’re sounding any better. Also, to monitor your improvement along the way.

This isn’t something I personally do but see the benefit of.

Step 4

LISTEN to a qualified qāri (reciter). My teacher recommends Sh. Khalil Husary, Sh. Abdul Basit and Sh.  Minshawy. You can listen to your favourite voices for leisure purposes, but for learning purposes, these are the recommended ones. Don’t just listen but take note of their makharij (origin of the sound of letters) and sifaat (characteristics of letters).

Step 5

Practice, but DO NOT OVER DO IT. 

My number one secret to improving my tajweed while reciting for ijaaza is after understanding my mistakes and knowing how I am supposed to sound, I don’t dwell on it. I let it go. The awareness of how I am supposed to sound has entered my conscious realm, and because of this awareness, it just falls into place with minimal effort, Alhamdulillah. It sounds counter-intuitive, but often those are the things that prove to work.

Bonus Step

Make tons of du’a, saying a du’a I learned from Ust. Nouman Ali Khan, Oh Allah, You have said that You’ve made the Qur’an easy, so make it easy for me.

With best of du’as for your dunya and aakhirah success


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Your Shadow Self


A lesson I inadvertently gained tonight: In coming to accept my shadow self, I am starting to accept the shadows of others.
I am coming to see them not as dark shadows, but as golden shadows. They have strengthened us, taught us and made us who we are today. We are therefore grateful for them. I invite you to accept your shadow. And see it as golden.

Marry Me, Islamically


All praises and thanks are due to Allah (SWT). Abundant salutations be on his beloved (SAW).

This post is not by me but by a guest author. I don’t usually copy and paste but this is too awesome not to share, so here goes.

Marry Me, Islamically

By Taaiebah Ebrahim

“Most of us have a primal craving to be truly known by someone before we die, to build a deeply committed relationship based on honesty, trust, self-disclosure, respect, appreciation, interdependence, and togetherness..” Aptly put! We yearn to be understood and loved for who we really are, that our better halves would see US as their better half – quirks & flaws included – especially when we’re in our weakened, less than what is deemed a defaulted average self. ESPECIALLY then.

Sh Navaid Aziz’s ‘Marry Me, Islamically’ talk makes mention of useful guides to the spouse hungry halves seeking direction to navigate their way towards their compatible other.

Some tips were combobulated by yours truly from the likes of Shaykhs: Navaid Aziz, Muaadth Allie, Allie Goder, in hopes that it aids in your search for theee one. Or for the males…theee one…of potentially four.


Focus on Deen and Character first. Walk into marriage with a sense of direction, using Islam as your foundation.

Look for someone that will be supportive of your Halaal goals.

Choose compatibility over looks / age / other material gunk. Don’t make the irrational trade of your life over a pretty face, a fancy car, or the other superficial fluff that can easily go up in smoke.

Aim for someone a tad more spiritual than you.
Don’t settle on low standards – instead, set them realistically high. Draw up a list of your must-haves and bonuses. Allah finds that companion for you, so don’t look too hard. Pray hard.

Don’t look for a hero/ine to ‘save’ you. A spouse should add to an already good life. Fix yourself, get your priorities in order, leave your baggage at the airport on purpose. They’ll think it’s a bomb and dispose of it.

Know that relationships with the opposite sex, apart from being Haraam, also rock the marriage boat – be it just-a-colleague, cousin, so-and-so’s-wifey-or-hubby. Understand who you’re allowed to interact with in terms of the opposite gender.

Emulate what you want. To attain greatness, you must be deserving of it.

Figure out your love language. Take it away Oprah & Dr Phil! Google is your friend.

Watch, read, listen…do your homework on your obligations as a husband / wife.
Educate yourself on ‘the wedding night’.

Marriage makes the family circle bigger, so it would be a logical step to meet with and (for the least part) like your potential extended family.

How to get hooked up?

Ask someone that knows someone! Good leads would be a Shaykh, Mualima, teacher, trusted family members, friends, the animal kingdom, etc. Make it known that you’re in the market and readily accepting applications.

Flush your fear of rejection down the loo and keep your eyes peeled like bananas! Allah may only allow him or her to cross your path once, so think of it as now or never, all or nothing, win or lose, chicken or beef, fight over flight!

Please note that a 3rd party needs to be present in meeting your potential spouse.

Objectives of Marriage:

1. Companionship (No brainer)

2. Procreation (Continuing the legacy of the Prophet SAW)

3. Physical pleasure – by fulfilling your desires in a halaal way, you get rewarded in this world and the next. A win-win situation

4. To unite people – two families should join forces to build a cornerstone in society.

Compatibility Test:

Topics of discussion on the first meeting:

1. Religion – Use your spidey senses and assess your potential spouse’s spiritual levels.

2. Discuss thoughts on balancing religion, family, friends, couple, work and alone-time.

3. Finance – Understand that a lady’s money is her own – and discuss your individual maintenance costs to gain a clearer perspective of needs & desires.

4. Children. Yes, no, maybe? How soon and how would they be raised (nanny’s, home/public schooling, etc.)?

5. Discuss how you wish to increase your Islamic education together.

6. Plans for future – discuss your long and short term goals for the next 5-10 years.

7. Be open about your good and bad habits. Video game addict, chain smoker, gymming fanatic, etc.

8. Health. Now would be the ideal time to mention if you have cooties. Discuss any diseases, defects and conditions you have.

9. Relationship expectations with in-laws and extended family?

10. Living arrangements? VIVA SA or move overseas? Robben Island is not overseas, no.

11. Polygamy needs to be discussed.

12. Ultimate vision for your family – what’s the plan to get to Jannah together? What are your plans to make this world a better place?


Don’t compromise too much when filtering the world for your spouse before marriage. Compromise after marriage.
Think of your potential spouse as a cake. The cake itself is the substance and what is vital. The icing is the ‘tang’. It’s nice to have a cake with icing, but the focus is on the cake. If you don’t have a sweet tooth, then think of it as a braaied piece of steak. The ‘tang’ is the marinade for crying out loud. You follow the analogy.

Gentlemen, please have purpose and direction in your life. Today’s men are still in the boy zone from being overly pampered by their moms. Don’t expect your wife to be a maid nor your mother. And realise that girl power is for the spice girls. Women are meant to be provided for by their men, and not vice versa.

Ladies, men generally want a wife that is good looking – not necessarily looking like a model, but one that takes care of herself physically. And a good cook – if all else fails, there’s always Nandos.

Both men and women need to be responsible in executing their obligations in the marriage. Focus on your own role, as opposed to what your spouse owes you. Go the extra mile and research what’s deemed ‘optional, and awesome’, and what’s dubbed ‘optional, but not-so-awesome’.
“A man will learn to love a woman he is attracted to and a woman will learn to find attractive whom she loves” Shaykh Navaid Aziz probably quoting someone else. Let’s just say Confucious said this one. He’s the default guy right.

Good YouTube watches:
The Healthy Marriage – by Nouman Ali Khan
Boys & Girls – A Love Story – Q&A – by Abu Eesa Niamatullah
Baba Ali (owner of Halfourdeen.com) offers entertaining clips in understanding the opposite sex for the looking-to-be, and already married folks.

Some ‘Halaal’ websites for serious Muslims looking for a spouse:

Consider this verse: “They are a garment for you and you are a garment to them” Qur’an [2 : 187] in conjunction with “The best garment is the garment of God-consciousness” Qur’an [7 : 26]

Post your mind-blasting ideas, tips and comments ~ Stay greedy for Jannah