Current Read: The Surrendered Wife


Current read: The Surrendered Wife. Because I believe in preparing for my marriage way better and more than for my wedding.

I now realise why marriage is so difficult. Or challenging -sometimes, at the very least. I’m someone who has something to say about everything and I’m learning that if I want a successful marriage, I’m going to have to learn to keep my mouth shut. Especially about inconsequential things. So I’m trying. It’s not about simply keeping my opinion to myself, but about relinquishing wanting to have control over everything. According to the author, Laura Doyle, what I see as wanting to help, my husband sees as controlling.

As I was reading the book, I thought about all the scenarios that played out where I had something to say. Like how I commented on the inappropriateness of my fiancé wearing bed-slippers to my house. (He had come from mosque, and they steal shoes at the mosque – for those who don’t understand why he’d wear bed-slippers to the mosque).

I had something to say about his wedding suit: It looks too casual; the collar needs to be broader. He then expressed how much he likes it. Oops. I recognised my wanting to control. So when he asked me what colour shirt and tie to wear, I restrained myself from sending him pictures I’d saved off the internet, and gave him the freedom to choose whatever he liked. Though I still wanted to see what he chose. I did not like the tie. But did I say so? Nope. I didn’t lie either. This book does not teach you to lie. I simply replied that I’m sure it will look great on him in person InShaAllah.

Interestingly, Laura Doyle explains that this need to control developed because a woman was let down at some point in her life:

Through reading this book, I intend to be an awesome wife in the very near-future, InShaAllah. I’m learning to relinquish control, pay attention to how I respond and receive graciously.

Alhamdulillah, I can’t be grateful enough to Allah SWT for blessing me with my future halal bae of incredible character. May Allah SWT guide our impending marriage. Āmīn.

Please feel free to share your marriage advices with me.

With best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,



Wedding Planning with Future Halal Bae


I love that future halal bae is into wedding planning. He’s more on the ball than I am! Can you believe it? We’re meeting the wedding venue people tomorrow InShaAllah. We’re fortunate to have found an available wedding venue at such short notice. Apparently people usually book wedding venues a year in advance. I will not reveal the venue out of fear of gate-crashers, when I have already decided to cut down our total number of guests from four hundred to three hundred. Please don’t be offended if you’re not invited; we’re both students on a budget at this point in our lives. Maybe you’ll be invited to our future children’s weddings InShaAllah.

So we met yesterday at my house, just us, without any distracting input just yet. Coz it’s our day and it’s about what we want. We went through the nikaah program, chose our reception playlist and discussed our photoshoot spots around Cape Town. We’re fortunate to have relatively chilled parents who are supportive of our decisions. Alhamdulillah.

I initially felt like I was forced into having a big wedding that I didn’t want. Not having a wedding was not even an option for my parents. A part of me still wishes I could skip the whole wedding reception, out of doing what I believe to be most pleasing to our Creator. Even though I am a girly girl and I have been dreaming of a beautiful wedding my whole life. I mean, I had a bride Barbie doll and all. But I would prefer a small, intimate wedding, ideally at a venue called the Baronness. Since we decided on a joint reception, it’s unfortunately too small so it sadly can’t be an option.

I am starting a separate wedding blog soon InShaAllah, which will hopefully be useful to others planning their wedding too.

With best wishes for your worldly and Hereafter success,


He Saw Me on YouTube & Now We’re Getting Married


Halal love stories are beautiful but mine is my favourite. He saw me on YouTube and now we’re getting married. #TrueStory

Future halal bae asked me when I’m blogging again, so I started this post while waiting on my beautician this morning.

But I’m jumping the gun. Let me rewind. He came across my hifth completion video on YouTube in January last year and saw someone he knew in it, so he contacted her. She told him I’m engaged. He contacted her again in January this year, after my ambiguous Facebook post:

She again told him I’m engaged. What happened with that guy was the typical story of boy and and girl want to get married but the parents say no, finish your education first. I was expecting to get married in December last year, but then I was asked to wait, hence this Fb post. The bottom line is that it was not meant to be. Even though we both felt positive post-istikhaarah, Allah did not facilitate it, which was His way of saying no; I have better plans for you.

I saw my friend (who was in the YouTube vid) at a wedding on the 2nd of July this year, she asked me when’s “the big day”. I broke the news that I’m not getting married anymore. She was like, “why didn’t you send out a BC?” Inside joke: I send out WhatsApp broadcast messages all the time of news and events, but I didn’t send out this message. Anyway, she told me this guy’s been asking about me. I checked him out on Facebook, coz that’s the first thing you do.

I had never been more convinced that it was not going to work out, but I firmly believe in giving things a chance. And look what happened.

How did I know he was “the one”?

There were many instances for me. Firstly, I was happy with all of his answers to my questions.

Another instance I just knew was when he told me, “I don’t need you to make me happy. And I’m sure you feel the same way.” I thought to myself, “Yes! Now that’s my man!”

Another was when I did something he didn’t like, which was reason enough for him to call it off, but he overlooked it.

I could go on, but I won’t. He needs to still believe he’s the lucky one in the relationship.

Gosh I feel like this blog post is all over the show. I still need to post the list of questions we asked each other. It’s in my holiday plans to update my blog, so please be patient with me.

With best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,



Fallen Angel


All praises and thanks be to Allah. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved. (SAW).

Someone posted this on their WhatsApp story yesterday. I thanked them for sharing, because I really needed to see it.

I wish I came across it earlier.

Because it’s been on my mind since I came to know about it. I didn’t want to write about it because I could not fathom it. I’m sure it’s really stale news by now. But if you follow Islamic YouTube lectures and social media, you would probably have an idea of what I am referring to. I give the case the benefit of the doubt, and husnul-dhan (thinking the best about a believer), but the cloud of doubt itself shocked me.

Through this quote I came across yesterday, I realised I was so disturbed and couldn’t deal because I had attached perfection to a particular person, instead of attaching perfection to Allah SWT alone.

Yasmin Mogahed is another person who is truly gifted, I mean, she couldn’t have put it better. But instead seeing her gift, I consciously choose to see the Giver of her gift. And I ask Him to protect her always. And everyone else in a similar position. Aameen.

How to Prevent a Janāzah Turning into a Tea Party


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW.

Thursday the 9th of November 2017 was a sad day for Cape Town, as it witnessed the passing of esteemed Sheikh, Imaam, father, grandfather and husband, amongst other roles. The very earth surely cried at his passing.

I encountered Sheikh Moosa, rahmatullahi alayhi, as a student of JEQ, as he always came to the hifdh completions and tamats, unless he was too ill to come. Whenever he joined the gathering, us girls would always be like “awwww he’s so cute.” (In a very old man’s type of adorableness; don’t get the wrong idea.) He was short and thin, and a little hunched over and walked with a stick. In his capacity as the President of the Board of JEQ, I remember Sheikh Moosa always making du’a for us students, especially for pious husbands for us, which I always appreciated and said “Aameen!” to.

However, this post isn’t about Sheikh Moosa, as I don’t have the right nor honour of writing about him.

I don’t know what happens in other parts of the world, but in Cape Town, both men and women go to the house of the mayyit (deceased person). Then they say a few words and make du’a for the deceased along with salawaat and/or a short thikr. The men then proceed to the masjid to perform salaatul janaazah, then go to the graveyard, while the women remain behind at the house. And what do they do? Have tea and talk. (Usually).

So Aunty Hajir Bawa always comes with her mic and speaker and starts a thikr. She said she understands that we haven’t seen each in a long time, but got everyone to quieten down and listen to her. She offered words of advice and urged the women to study deen, especially so that they can teach their children. She said that the men go off and the women remain behind and may not know what goes on. So she explained what happens at the qabr and translated parts of the talqeen, the sermon that is delivered to the deceased. And then the questioning in the grave.

This is how Aunty Hajir prevents a janāzah from turning into a tea party. In the most beautiful way.

I hope to be like Aunty Hajir when I’m far older, and be that person who brings spiritual productivity to the place, InShaAllah.

Life’s Little Joys

Sometimes, or rather most times, it is the little things that bring the most joy to my life. Actually, it’s the little things that are the big things.

Sometimes I think female cats should’ve been called bitches instead of female dogs. But I love my gorgeous cat to bits, no matter how snobby and unloveable she can be.

So much



All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW.


The final month of my academic year – as student and teacher.


So much to cram into this short month.

So much to look forward to.

So much.

No more time to procrastinate.

Or waste.

It’s crunch time.

Now or never.

“And there is nothing for man except what he strives for.” (Qur’an, 53:39)

Life Right Now


I have a million things going on for me but I’m blogging right now – ’cause blogging is the most logical thing to do when your To-Do list is too long to handle, right? Apart from eating, of course.

So I will be completing my khatm for sanad and ijaaza (in Hafs ‘An ‘Āsim via the Shatibiyyah) on Friday the 1st of December InShaAllah. Please join me to witness South Africa’s very first females-only Qirā-āt Completion Ceremony, under a female teacher on top of it. #HistoryInTheMaking! Message me for details.

In my reality right now, I’m trying keep up my dhor (back lessons) and learn a new chapter or two of the Jazariyyah every day. Today I apologised to Ml. Ayesha, saying that I’m sorry for being such a terrible student but I’m just not coping very well with my life right now.

I resigned from my job as a media, marketing & communications manager and I met with the new manager today, Alhamdulillah.

I have 3 major assignments due next week and Umm Zakiyyah is going to be in town this weekend. And guess who’s facilitating her meet-up on Friday? Meeeeeeeeee! I’m really looking forward the Accidental Muslims event.

Tonight I went to my qirā-āt class tonight taught by Sh. Imtiyaaz Isaacs, and I couldn’t help my mind drifting to my halal future bae at some point, but that’s a post for another time.

I don’t usually do du’a requests, but I humbly ask you for your du’as.

With my best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,



Le matrimonials: My List


All praises and thanks be to Allah SWT. Abundant salutations be upon His and our beloved SAW. 
We all know people who are looking to get married, but when I ask some people, “What exactly are you looking for?”, the answer is something like, “a good Muslim” or “someone with deen and good character.” That’s all good and well, but I think that’s way too vague to be describing the person that you’re potentially going to spend the rest of your life with! So I decided to share “my list.”
What I am looking for in a husband:
This description is my ideal/ dream husband and I understand that someone wouldn’t be absolutely everything that I am looking for. But here goes:
▪️Someone who loves Allah SWT, His Messenger SAW and the Qur’an,
▪️who has good character
▪️who preferably comes from a good family
▪️Someone with the same understanding of deen as me
▪️preferably with higher eemaan than me
▪️Someone who is able to articulate his feelings, express himself, and communicate well
▪️Someone who is good-natured, very sweet, romantic, thoughtful, affectionate, caring and kindhearted
▪️Someone who understands me and who handles me well, especially at my worst
▪️Someone who brings joy to my life
▪️who fits in well with my family
▪️who is generally happy and positive
▪️Someone who is well-spoken
▪️emotionally mature
▪️educated in deen and dunya
▪️Someone who is healthy, not overweight
▪️who doesn’t have anger issues
▪️Someone who knows how to cook and clean would be nice, even though I can cook.
▪️Someone willing to help out at home would be nice too
▪️Someone responsible
▪️financially stable; able to provide and who is good with money
▪️Finally, someone who wants to marry me for who I am and who values and appreciates me and what I do, and who encourages and supports me in everything that I do and ultimately helps me along the journey to Jannah.
My deal-breakers
🔺Living with in-laws/family 
🔺Practicing polygamy
🔺Travelling a lot for work
🔺Practicing anything haram
🔺Anger issues
If you’re one of those people looking to get married, I hope that this list helps you to define or refine what you’re looking for in a potential partner. Or maybe you can share it with someone you know who is looking.
With best of du’as for your worldy and Hereafter success,
PS: I am planning to share my list of questions to ask in another post inShaAllah. If you need it urgently then just email or WhatsApp message me at any time.

Course: The Study of 57 Ways of Recitation for Imam Hafs (RA)



I was invited to attend the enrichment course hosted by Jam ‘Eyyatul Qurra on the study of 57 ways of recitation for Imam Hafs RA, and being a qiraa-aat student, there was no ways I was going to pass up this opportunity. It started last night and it is being recorded, so anyone still wanting to join may do so. It is free of charge.

The text is in Arabic and is translated and explained by Sheikh Imtiyaaz Isaacs. Due to time constraints, he does not translate word-for-word and nor does he explain terms that we are expected to know, like “tawssut” and “mutawaatir”.

In order to give an overview of the science of qiraa-aat, he started off explaining that there are ten qurraa, and each had two outstanding students. In the case of ‘Asim, his two students, Hafs and Shu’ba, were outstanding not only for their perfection of their recitation, but because they would not accept remuneration of any kind – Not even their students carrying their bags for them. Why? They feared coming on the day of Qiyaamah and being told that they already received their remuneration in the dunya! SubhanAllah! May Allah SWT make us true people of the Qur’an. Aameen.


Course Duration: 16 days

The course is based on the book “ Taudih Al Ma’lim Li Turuq Hafs An Asim” by Sheikh Allie bin Muhammad Tawfiq Al Nuhas

The book is dynamic in the field of Qira’at specifically and generally in the field of Quran as it is the first of its kind demonstrating every dialect with a chain of transmission from the author directly to the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him.

The book incorporates 57 ways of recitation for the narrator Hafs may Allah be pleased with him who is a direct student of Asim may Allah be pleased with him. Only 52 ways of recitation is found in the Nasr of Imam Ibn Al Jazariy and the 5 ways was included by Sheikh Taufiq who studied it under the tutorship of Sheikh Amir Sayed Uthman the grand Sheikh of Egypt in his time may Allah be pleased with them and Sheikh Kuriam Rajih of Damascus.

The enrichment program will focus primarily on the practical application of each recitation in collaboration with the theoretical aspects thereof.

This course will equip educators with in depth insights on both theoretical and practical Quranic installations derived from the texts.

Expectation of those who are interested to join – persons that enter should have a background of understanding Arabic texts and Tajwid rules.

Allocated days per week: 2 days

Sun (8.30-10.30am) morning

Tuesday (7.30-9.30pm) evening

Venue: JEQ FHI (Females Campus, new building, 13th Avenue Skaap Kraal)

Presented by: Imtiyaaz Isaacs (Graduate of the Al-Azhar university Faculty of Islamic Law and direct student of the author)

All welcome!

​Striving for excellence in the memorization of the Holy Quran

Imtiyaaz Isaacs Al Azhariy
Male Hāfith Institute
c/o Schaapkraal & Kraal Roads, Schaapkraal, 7880
P.O. Box 31447, Grassy Park 7888
Tel:021 703 9324, Fax:021 704 1305
Cell: 071 891 5961