Some things I learned

Some things I learned this month (March). This post is overdue, but rather late than never, right?So here goes:

Something I read:

If you could choose your destiny/fate, you would choose what Allah chose for you. SubhanAllah. 

 

Something I’ve struggled with up until I studied ‘Aqeedah last year was reconciling what I chose for my life and what Allah chose for me. I wrote my Moulana a letter after class, out of gratitude for facilitating the contentment that that precious knowledge brought me. 

Something I learned:
I love asking people for marriage advice, so I asked the lady who kindly drops me home for some advice. She’s been married for 30 years. She said that before you make du’a for Allah to grant you a pious husband, first ask him to make YOU pious, and to grant YOU all the good qualities you want in a husband. 

Something that works for me:

I have two email accounts, both gmail, and they’re linked so it’s convenient to switch between the two. One is for business and one is for pleasure. So one is used for subscriptions and some social media accounts while the other is for things to attend to. I don’t use the gmail tabs, I’m still old school. But this works for me. I’m not the most organized person in the world but I star things that I want to read later and I have labeled folders to categorise various topics. I’m proud of myself for keeping up fairly neat inboxes. 

Some things I heard:

It was an absolute pleasure to learn from Sheikh Yahya Ibrahim in person after having watched him on YouTube. “Love Stories from the Qur’an” was something different and I learned new stuff I didn’t know before, like the story of Ayyūb AS, the fact that Yusuf AS married the wife of the Aziz after all, and the test of Dawūd AS mentioned in Surah Saad. 

“This lady said to me, “I married a man with a Fajr beard.” I said, “What’s a Fajr beard?” She said,”He’s got a beard that looks like he prays Fajr. I got the beard but not the Fajr!”” – Sh. Yahya Ibrahim.

“Love is the peak of ‘ubudiyyah to Allah.” – Sh Yahya Ibrahim 

Some places I tried

I read on a blog that I cannot recall the details of, that you should regularly experience adventure. Adventure doesn’t have to be outrageous, even just trying a new restaurant can be an adventure. So I tried breakfast at Caturra Coffee Bar, lunch at Syriana and supper at Saray – not all on the same day! 😅 They’re all strictly halāl places btw. I was excited to eat kunafa at Syriana – a delicacy I last had in Dubai years ago! 

Breakfast at Caturra Coffee Bar


Virgin Cosmo at Saray


Something I experienced: 

The most sunnah Nikaah I’ve ever witnessed. It was simple, jovial, blessed. From the day they chose, Monday, being a favourite day of the Nabi SAW, encouraging everyone to fast and offering a simple iftaar, on the floor, according to the sunnah. I arrived after Maghrib to jovial nasheed. There were short talks, the actual Nikaah and Salawaat. They gave out a little plate of snacks and an ice cream to take home. Sweet. May Allah SWT grant me a simple, most blessed nikaah one day. Āmīn. 

Iftaar on the floor of the masjid

The Bride

Standing for the Salawaat


Something I contemplated

I’m at the point in my life where I’m finding the balance between the perception of practicing Islam in a more rigid manner and approaching an adaptable lifestyle that I believe Islam’s meant to be. I mean a sort of balance between the strictly “no movies, no music, black abaya-only, get married young and have babies” type of Muslim to pleasing Allah by being authentically, comfortably me, and open to respecting and practicing differences of opinion. As I’ve studied, I thought I’d become stricter but I’ve actually become more accepting and tolerant, of myself firstly and of others.   

That’s a wrap for March’s edition of “Some things I learned”. Don’t be shy to comment or contact me directly to get in touch. 

With best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,

Wasfeeya

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Curation of Hifdh Teacher Database

Inspiration for Qur'an Memorization

Assalaamu ‘alaykum wa Rahmatullah,

AlHumdulillah, I receive numerous requests on a daily basis from keen students in search of reputable hifdh teachers from all over the world!
As such, I’m looking into creating a database for female hifdh (hifz / hafazan/ tahfeedh) teachers, who teach both online and / or onsite.
If you teach Hifdh, I’d be ever so grateful if you filled in the form below and returned via email. JazakiAllahu Khayr!

Click here to access the document >>>>    Hifdh Teacher Database
All contacts will be collated and posted – with regular updates – as a separate page on this blog, making it easily accessible to sisters worldwide, inshaAllah.

Together, let’s network to have more sisters memorizing, loving, and living Al Qur’aan!

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2 Year Anni

Bismillah 

All praises and thanks be to Allah, who blessed us with the Qur’an. Abundant salutations be upon our beloved Messenger, upon whom the Qur’an was revealed. 

One Year Anni


So it’s been two years now, Alhamdulillah. I’m grateful that I’m in a far better space than I was when I “finished”. Inverted commas because I feel like I’m never really finished. 

I’m currently doing dhor (revision) and simultaneously reading for sanad. Last year, by the Grace of the Almighty, I read a group khatm and attained my first sanad in Hafs ‘an ‘Àsim. This year I’ll soon be completing my recitation for my second sanad InShaAllah. 

I love that there’s so much more to learn post-memorisation. May Allah SWT grant me the tawfeeq to continue improving my tajwīd and achieve my qirā-āt goal of completing the Seven and Ten readings. Āmīn. 

I still have to constantly battle against Shaytaan. I still struggle with my nafs, with keeping up my revision, with upholding good character. But I know they’ll be there for life so I embrace these challenges with open arms. (Most of the time.)

What I’ve learnt is that revision does get easier. FINALLY!

BUT it doesn’t stay with you regardless, unless you keep at it. But that’s where the beauty in being a hāfidh/ah lies, I’m slowly coming to appreciate. 

After thanking Allah SWT, I take this opportunity to thank my parents, Ustadh, teachers, friends and family for your love and support. I wouldn’t be where I am today if it weren’t for you. 

I hope this post makes you reflect on and renew your Qur’an goals InShaAllah, especially with Ramadhān around the corner. 

With best of du’as for your worldly and Afterlife success,

Wasfeeya 

Narratives on the Seven Great Readers by Qari Saleem Gaibie

Bismillah 

All praises and thanks be to Allah (SWT) who blessed us with the Glorious Qur’ān. Abundant salutations be upon our beloved Nabi Muhammad (SAW), the one whom the Qur’an was revealed upon. 

Book Review: 

“Narratives on the Seven Great Readers” by Qari Saleem Gaibie

Available at Al-Tanzīl, Bird St., Kenwyn. Contact: +27 (0) 21 8299708 or +27 (72) 1417977. 


In the paraphrased words of Qari Saleem Gaibie, anyone who wants to succeed in a field of expertise should study the lives of those who excelled in it. Therefore, those who intend to read the Seven and Ten Qirā-āt should learn about our illustrious scholars of exemplary character, dedication and piety. 

In fact, any and every student of Qur’an should read this book to get a glimpse into the lives of these luminaries. As it’s a short read of only 67 pages, there is no excuse. 

This book includes a brief history of qirā-āt and explains the terms “The Readers (Qurrā’)”, “The Transmitters (Ruwāt)” and “The Ways/Paths (Turuq)”. It also provides diagrams of the scholarly links to the Prophet Muhammad (SAW). 

Through reading this book, I was inspired, moved to tears and yearning to meet them. May Allah SWT have mercy on them and grant them Al-Firdous. Āmīn. 

May Allah (SWT) accept the latest book of Qari Saleem Gaibie and all of his works, constantly increase him and reward him well in this world and the next. Āmīn. 

“Narratives on the Seven Great Readers” by Qari Saleem Gaibie is available at Al-Tanzīl, Bird St., Kenwyn. Contact: +27 (0) 21 8299708 or +27 (72) 1417977. 

When you’re ready to heal

Bismillah 

“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.”

-Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy

If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you may have noticed how I’ve mentioned my daddy issues in-between. It’s been about three months since my father’s been back in Cape Town. The topic of our conversations was always my bae-to-be, but since he’s no longer in the picture, we haven’t had a one-on-one conversation. We tend to live past each other as he comes home late and I leave early. May sound familiar to you, as it does to many. 

So my father took this morning as an opportunity to finally speak about something that had come up, as I stayed home today. 


Once we resolved the matter, it lead to a whole world of wonders – The kind of conversation that made me need to cry in the bathroom as soon as it was over. I unreservedly cried until I was satisfied. Not tears of hurt, but tears of healing.  

When you’re ready to heal, the circumstance will arise. Much like the old adage “When the student is ready, the master will appear.” 

I don’t know if anything will come of it after this, but I no longer bear any expectations. I never thought today’s unreserved conversation would ever happen, so who knows?
All I can say is that I’m proud of the young lady I’ve become, and I’m happy to say that I’ve reached the point where I no longer need anyone to pat me on the back. 

I pray that everyone gets there. 

With best of du’as for your worldly and Hereafter success,

Wasfeeya

Some things I learned [2]

Bismillāh, waSalātu waSalāmu ‘alā Rasūlillāh. 
SubhanAllah, it’s the end of the second month of the year. Just 3 months to go until Ramadhān. Have you thought about preparing yet?

As I said last month, I’ll be sharing some things I learned at the end of each month, so here’s this month’s edition. 

Something I read

This book isn’t a holiday read like last month’s one, I’m glad to announce. It’s a daily spiritual manual with practical advices: “Mamulaat” by Sheikh Zulfiqar Ahmad Naqshbandi. A hadith that struck me and really impacted me was, “A servant of Allah gets tired and embarrassed of asking for forgiveness, but Allah never gets tired of forgiving.”It’s a reminder that sometimes we give up on ourselves, but Allah never gives up on us. 


Something I contemplated

In one of my psych classes we were discussing the question, “When do you become an adult?” We know when Islamically, but in our society a nine or ten year old is the furthest thing from adulthood. We sort of concluded that for everyone it’s different. For me personally it would be when I’m financially independent (InShaAllah). When do you think you’ll be, or became, an adult? 


Something I came to realise

I was hurt to find out that someone spoke about me. I’m a believer in “What you don’t know won’t hurt you,” so I wish it didn’t come to my attention. I came to realise a tad too late that it came to me as a test. One that I didn’t exactly pass, unfortunately. (May Allah SWT forgive me and us all.  Āmīn.) It’s forced me to reflect that if I’m so hurt, what about the people that I happen to speak about, consciously or obliviously. I don’t think any of us can claim with conviction that we’re innocent of this heinous crime. ‘Cause we talk without thinking twice. We talk without comprehending the weight of our words. It is hard to speak only when necessary. It’s super hard to think before speaking. But it’s crucial when the definition of backbiting is to say something about someone that they wouldn’t like. (Reminder to myself first.)


So let’s take a firm resolve (or renew it) at this precise moment in time, to strive with every ounce of willpower we posses to avoid falling into it ever again. And if we do, to remember to make the prophetic du’a: 

‎اللهُمَّ فأَيُّمَا مُؤْمِنٍ سَبَبْتُهُ فَاجْعَلْ ذَلِكَ لهُ قُرْبةً إليكَ يَوْمَ القِيَامةِ

Allaahumma fa’ayyummaa mu`minin sababtuhu faj’al dhaalika lahu qurbatan ‘ilaika yawmal-qiyaamah

Oh Allaah, whomever of the believers I have abused, give him the reward of a sacrificial slaughter for it on the Day of Resurrection. (Bukhari)

Source: Hisnul Muslim (Fortress of the Muslim) – du’a # 230


Something I accomplished

I quit biting my nails after about 18 years of being a nail-biter! I’m proud to say it’s been more than 21 days, Alhamdulillah.

These aren’t the prettiest finger nails in the world, but they’re mine a few short weeks since I quit biting my nails after 18 years! #goalsachieved #proudofmyself

My finger nails last night. Btw I clipped them tonight!

 

Something I reflected upon 

In psych class we learned about the cycle of friendships. It has this cool ABCDE ring to it. It may sound simple but have you actually  sat and reflected on this cycle in your life? 

Acuaintainship

Build-up

Continuation

Deterioration

Ending 

It made me think of my friends. Like the vast majority of people, I have many acquaintances but a handful of people that I would call friends. I reflected on why they’re my friends and whether I’d still like to be friends with them. A friend once sent me this apt quote that usually sits on my windowsill:

Something I heard

The biggest test in your life right now may be your ticket to Jannah. -Ml. Khalil Hendricks


The lady who gives me a lift home related to me what she heard in class at Darun-Na’im from my fave teacher. He said we should start preparing for Ramadhān now by waking up for tahajjud, fasting on Mondays and Thursdays, eating less and reciting more. 

That’s it for this month’s edition. I hope you like this series of blog posts. Send me your ideas or suggestions. You can reach me any time on WhatsApp: +27793500024 (Females only). 

With best of du’as for your dunya & ākhirah success,

Wasfeeya 

I’m still struggling 

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Bismillah 

Did you know that not all parents instantly fall in love with their newborn baby? 

The new parent must feel really horrible, and guilty about it. Especially when there’s a hype from everyone else and every other new parent seems to experience this immediate connection with their baby. 

I feel similarly with Qur’an. I think there’s an unrealistic expectation that you’ll experience this overwhelming emotional connection to it. When we first started translating Surah Baqarah I felt annoyed to be honest; annoyed that the Yahūd were mentioned so much in our Qur’an.  

I was told I’ll cry everyday. I didn’t. I cried once in class – for the whole year. That was it.  

Someone once likened it to meeting a new person, with some people you feel an instant connection yet with others it takes a while, maybe a good couple of meetings, to get to know them before you form a bond. If you found an instant connection with Qur’an, say Alhamdulillah to the nth degree. But this post goes out to those who haven’t quite felt it. Yet. Especially to those who feel guilty or feel like there’s something wrong with them. Don’t give up. Keep going back. Again and again. 

I went to class every day regardless. And then one day, smack bam! This one ayah just hit me. I said I only cried once in class. But once was all I needed. It was a life-defining moment. 

I yearn for every ayah to feel like that. Like Allah is speaking directly to me. Like every ayah was revealed just for me. But it doesn’t. Not yet anyway. 

Memorising and review (what I’m currently in the midst of) can become monotonous. 

30 ajzaa later, I’m still struggling. 

So I advise myself, before anyone else, once again: don’t give up. Ever. 

I pray that Allah SWT softens our hearts and grants us to truly experience His āyāt to the core of beings and into the depths of our lives. May we one day enter Jannatul Firdous and experience Allah SWT telling us:

Hifdh University 

Bismillah.

I’m in awe of His mercy that someone so undeserving has been hand-picked to be a student of His Words. Again. 

Alhamdulillah. 

May He choose us over and over, accept us and from us and make us worthy. Āmīn. 

So I’m in a full-time class from Mondays to Fridays with Ml Ayesha Abrahams. Do check out her impressive bio, MaShaAllah. What a privilege and honour to be a student of the most highly qualified female Qur’an teacher in South  Africa, and someone with such exemplary character at that, MāShāAllah. 

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I was nervous about starting class this year. I messaged Moulana Saleem Gaibie the night before requesting his du’as. I reminded him that there was a time that he refused to teach females, but teaching her has proven to be fruitful. She actually has a waiting list of students! SubhanAllah. I am grateful to Moulana Saleem for offering part-time classes to females at Al-Tanzīl Institute of Qur’anic Sciences, and I thanked him because I wouldn’t have started full-time this year if it wasn’t for the opportunity I had last year. Not just the opportunity, but the beautiful experience that I had. It was the first time I had absolutely no complaints about an Islamic Institute! I’m trying to think of something that may have irritated me in the slightest but nothing comes to mind. 

There are only two other girls in my class, and our day starts with doing an Arabic reader. We’re covering a book whose title translates as “Exposè of the Most Gracious, Most Kind on the Etiquette for Abassadors of the Qur’an.”

To be honest, I’m finding it rather challenging! 

Then we start with our recitation. The first six months of our year is dedicated to strengthening our dhor/back lessons, known in Cape Town as “making lanja.” So far I’ve strengthened Juz 1 to Juz 10, and today I was meant to recite them to her consecutively, in one sitting – with only two mistakes where she corrects me and two mistakes where I correct myself. I recited nearly nine ajzaa, but then I had to leave to catch my lift club. I feel really disappointed about it. I wish I recited faster in the beginning so that I could have finished reciting all ten ajzaa. I asked her how my recitation was and whether I need to repeat the process tomorrow. I didn’t make any mistakes where she corrected me but there were quite a few self-rectified mistakes. So I was half-hoping that I would have to repeat the recitation tomorrow but she said it was fine.

Having an amazing teacher makes such a difference. She doesn’t crucify me for being human. Sometimes I make mistakes not because I didn’t revise but because my mind drifted for a second or due to the slip of my tongue, and I get irritated about it but she doesn’t mind at all. She indicates I’m wrong, I correct myself, and life goes on. But in my head I hear my past teachers’ disapproval, especially if I make an old mistake. It used to be the end of the world if I made an old mistake. 

Thank God I passed hifdh “high school,” with its drama, politics and depression and moved onto hifdh “university” with its freedom, growth and contentment. 

Alhamdulillah. 

So daily I first recite the newly prepared juz, then come back and recite three inconsecutive ajzaa in one sitting. 

Then when I’m finished I recite a maqara (an eighth) or a quarter juz towards my Khatm that I’m reciting to her for sanad in Hafs ‘An ‘Āsim. 

Three weeks since class started, I can say there was nothing to be nervous about. With such an understanding and compassionate teacher, I know that I’ll achieve my goals, but more importantly achieve the goal of my heart: to reconnect with the Qur’an. The Words of Allah Almighty. InShaAllah. 

Some things I learned 

Bismillah 

I am inspired by the blog series “3 for sunnah” by Umm Raiyaan of Sisters Achieve, where every Monday she shares something she’s either read, studied, experienced, discovered, learnt, lost, gained, loved and hated! Deen and dunya! 

So I’m inspired to start my own blog series, where I’ll be sharing a post at the end of every month. As this month draws to a close, I encourage you to take a moment and reflect on it. 

Something I discovered:

I started teaching a new student today, so in order to determine her learning style, I emailed her an article which included the link to a quiz. I decided to take the quiz myself, expecting to be categorized as the visual learner I thought I was, but lo and behold, I’m actually a read/write learner! This means that I have a strong preference for learning by reading and writing. Well what do ya know?! 


Something I read:

The book I read this month was “A Second Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul.” I couldn’t put it down. I absolutely love those inspiring, heart-warming stories that move me to tears and make me feel warm and fuzzy inside. Aaaawww..


Something I learned:

I love watching Oprah’s life class on YouTube in my free time, and this month, I came across one about daddyless daughters. It was deep. I learned to forgive myself for the things that I believed about myself and the things I did as a result of my father not being there. It was such a revelation. Some might think that I’m oversharing, but this is my healing. Just yesterday I learned, or rather was reminded, that your whole life is a divine plan! SubhanAllah aka lightbulb moment when you surrender wholeheartedly. 



Something I came to realise:

I’m getting better at practicing non-judgment, Alhamdulillah. I came know this because at an MSA workshop last weekend and I was speaking to a girl who wears a turban and before it used to really irk me, but it doesn’t anymore. I got to know her and find out how much empathy she has for even people on the street, how much incomparable good she’s done, what amazing character she has and I felt ashamed of myself. 

On that note, the topic of MSA executive members who don’t wear Hijaab came up. I opened up about how judgmental I used to be of them, thinking that “they’re supposed to be leaders and role models etc etc.” but now I think it’s cool that we have girls who aren’t in Hijaab yet. Other girls might find them relatable and join MSA too and be guided closer to Allah through it. Who knows?

Furthermore, today I heard another story about monster-in-laws who are practicing Muslims who pray and wear niqab and the whole nine yards, yet are so cold. No man. Islam is relationships. It’s empathy. 
Something I heard:

If someone’s test comes to your attention, it is now your test: what are you going to do about it? 

Something I contemplated:

“…more and MORE Muslim practising couples are falling out of love. Worse still, the love wasn’t there to begin with. It seems most married with their heads hoping their hearts would follow. Is it possible for a practising Muslim man and woman to marry for love and for that love to grow into something wonderful?” -Umm Raiyaan, Sisters Achieve. 

Just last night one of my brothers asked me something to the effect that in today’s tough times, why can’t women see marriage merely as a contract with mutual benefits? Basically marrying with their heads, not their hearts. I think that while the concept seems logical and viable, women are far too emotional to accept that. But upon further thought, the purpose of marriage is far beyond that. 

A practicing Muslim, niqabi sister and her halal bae are head over heals in love with each other even though they are not dating. I’m personally strict about limiting communication during the engagement period so in my view, they’re crossing the line, but this quote leads me to believe that they’ll have a marriage filled with love, as opposed to me trusting I’ll fall in love after getting married – which may or may not happen. 

I think that there needs to be physical attraction, and some feelings will inevitably creep in, but I still don’t believe you should be in love. And Allah knows best. 

Something random I experienced 

I am utterly intrigued by dancing, especially ballroom dancing, and I’m amazed at the incredible rhythm, strength and stamina Allah SWT blessed dancers with. Above that, I find their intense passion exhilarating. So last week I was reciting to my teacher fluently, with so much passion I had an Argentian tango going on in my head. “This must be what it feels like to dance,” I thought. I wondered if abstaining from dancing in this world and reciting Qur’an would lead me to be a dancer in Jannah (Paradise) one day. 

Hifdh Perceptions vs Reality

All praises and thanks are to Allah (SWT) Who blessed us with the Glorious Qur’an. Abundant salutations be upon our beloved master, Nabi Muhammad (SAW).

Time-frame

I remember that when I made the intention to do hifdh, the person encouraged me to attend a particular hifdh school and mentioned that students there had finished in one, one and a half or two years. So there’s a perception that hifdh, the memorisation of the Qur’an, has a time-frame, and the quicker someone finishes, the more impressive they are. Some say that three years is average, so if someone takes longer than that, they’re kind of delayed or slow or thick. In reality, I don’t believe there should be time-frame or an “average” or “norm.” I personally found knowing about this notion of a time-frame to be detrimental, as I put undue pressure on myself to complete in less than three years. Some people may take two years, whilst some may take eight years. In reality, everyone is different – let’s appreciate that. We should stop with the stories about people who finish in two months. I believe they’re especially gifted and blessed. (May Allah (SWT) bless us all.) However, the time-frame someone completes in should not be the yardstick of hifdh success. Often those who complete quickly actually need to put in less effort than those who take longer, but “Allah doesn’t value achievement, He values effort” –Ust. Nouman Ali Khan.

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Schedule

Another perception is that the best time to memorise is before Fajr. It’s no doubt the most blessed time, but is it the best time? In reality, not everyone is able to wake up and function properly that early in the morning. Again, everyone is different, and everyone has an optimal time for them. Some people are early birds whilst others are night owls. You need to figure what time of the day works best for you. I happen to be a night owl, but I used to feel guilty about the fact that I couldn’t wake up ridiculously early, until I met a fellow night owl who also successfully memorised the Qur’an. Now don’t use this as an excuse not to wake up early – first try it. There was a period of time that I woke up at 4am and went to bed at 10pm, and although it worked, it simply wasn’t sustainable for me.

Spiritual dimension

Another perception is that hifdh schools are spiritually uplifting environments that put you on an ȋmān high all the time. People think it must be amazing to be at such a place reciting all day. The reality is kind of different, at least in my own experiences. I rarely found students of exemplary character. I rarely found teachers to be motivating and reminding students to renew their intention or to ask Allah’s acceptance after reciting. After I completed, during my tamat phase, I had an Egyptian teacher who came to help out, and after I recited my portion to her, she said “TaqabbalAllah.” She didn’t say “well done.” She didn’t say “repeat that juz.” She said, “May Allah accept [from you]”. This really struck me, because it was the first time a teacher gave me this reminder. It’s not about how well you recited for your teacher, but whether Allah accepts your recitation from you. On that note, beg Allah SWT for His acceptance always, and I remind myself first. I saw the Egyptian teacher at a shopping mall after I tamatted, and again, all she said was “TaqabbalAllah.”

Parents & Motivation

Some students need pressure to succeed whereas others need to feel free of pressure. Some parents put tons of pressure whilst other parents don’t really care – they treat the hifdh school like a drop off zone. It’s important for parents to know their child in this regard. Provide rewards for motivation but not to the extent that you’re bribing them.

The Role of Parents

I’ve found that often parents are not made aware of what is expected of them. Even though I was an independent teenager/young adult when I was memorising, I still needed my mother to check my lessons the night before class. The nature of hifdh is that you’re never prepared enough. So young children who cannot sit on their own have an even greater need for a stay-at-home parent to help them, and if that’s not possible, an employed tutor on a daily basis.

Expectations

People expect hifdh students to become perfectly practicing Muslims because they’re doing hifdh. I also used to have this view but I realised how judgemental this is and no longer think this way. I heard of a case of twin sisters where one was doing hifdh and the other one wasn’t. The one who was doing hifdh was forced to wear hijab whilst the other one wasn’t. What I find problematic about this is that both of them should be encouraged to wear hijab and strive to become better Muslims, not only one just because she is doing hifdh. The reality is that you are still the same person when you start and it’s up to you to strive to embody the Qur’an that you’re memorising – it’s not an automatic process. Don’t try to change overnight, and don’t expect others to either. Take it in stages. And don’t do it to live up to expectations of other people but for Allah (SWT). For example, instead of listening to music – and let’s face it, hifdh students and huffaadh listen to music – listen to nasheeds with instruments until you can wean yourself onto non-instrumental nasheeds. Let’s remind ourselves that sins prevent us from memorising successfully. I know a girl who wanted to break up with her boyfriend shorly before her tamat (hifdh graduation) just so that Allah would make her tamat easy for her.

Memorising gets easier

They say memorising gets easier because you get the hang of it as you go along. It didn’t get that much easier for me and the workload only got more with every additional juz. It was a tough journey from beginning to “end,” and it still is challenging to maintain now. I don’t share this to put you off, but to make you realise what’s ahead of you. Allah won’t hand you Jannah on a silver platter, so this is the sacrifice you just gotta make. My advice would be to stick through it, but also enjoy it.
Go easy on yourself, for it truly is a lifelong commitment. I wish I could have caught a glimpse of my future while I was doing hifdh in order to comprehend life out

Once you finish you’re a haafidh/ah

Often students rush to finish because they have to meet their madrasah’s deadline or they have to go back to school, so they neglect their back lessons during this time. Once one completes, they’re automatically given the title of haafidh/ah, but in reality, just because one finished memorising doesn’t mean that they really know their Qur’an.

Some schools have the consolidation phase, which leads up to the tamat – the occasion where students are tested and officially graduate as huffadh/haafidhaat. It seems like a great idea, but on the flip side, it gives one the false impression that now you know your Qur’an, you’re solid, you’re a haafidh/ah, which causes most to slacken in revising afterwards.

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These are just some of my perceptions versus reality in my view. Feel free to share your thoughts with me.

With best of du’as for a productive 2017,

Wasfeeya